idk, i think fear of abandonment may be the root symptom of BPD..

I"m reading a book goo: "Understanding The Borderline Mother. Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship". I'm not far at all in it, but it caught my eye at the bookstore. I see my mother and I see myself as a mother. Hard.

Here are common thoughts among children with borderline mothers:

"I never know what to expect"

"I don't trust her"

"She says it didn't happen" ("it" can be anything)

"She makes me feel terrible"

"Everyone else thinks she's great"

"Its all or nothing"

"She's so negative"

"She flips out"

"Sometimes I can't stand her"

"She drives me crazy"

Each of these is then talked about separately.

The book caught my eye because of the first line of the preface: "The first thing we must understand in life is our mother." and goes on to say "Understanding our mother is the first step to understanding ourselves."

and a line from the Introduction resonated with me, too:

"Children with borderline mothers begin their lives with an insecure attachment to an emotionally unstable mother."

Anyway, the book seems like it will be very good. Am taking it with me to therapy tomorrow.