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Originally Posted by JDHold
I respect everyones opinions. Maybe i hadnt been as detailed as i should have been in my original post. I had asked her to put herself in my shoes when asked to go to the prison if she would like it amd she admitted that she wouldnt like it. Thats when i said i wouldnt put up with that kind of disrespect, also, there was no mentipn of the picture before he went in. Atleast thats what she told me. She said he asked randomly out of the blue. But why would he asked for one after 3 years of being broken up. I never crossed lines likr that with friends of mine or exes who wrote me whilr i was locked up. Jealous? Insecure? Yes. Because now ive begun to doubt that they are just friends. As we all know, cheating is mote than just a physical thing.
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i totally agree, "emotional cheating" is a relatively new concept..but quite real!
idk why he would suddenly ask for a picture after 3 yrs of separation, disturbing this is.
it's a hairy situation, because without knowing the content of those letters, you have nothing but her word to go on.
i don't know the strength of the bond between the two of you/or how long the two of you have been together so this is indeed a difficult one to approach.
assuming they have been apart for 3 yrs in some shape or form they must have still been in contact for this entire time..which is ok, that's fine..but let me ask you, how long have you two been together?
also as a whole, how is the relationship going between you two? is it good,great,rocky,somewhere in the middle?
i will say this, the fact that she wouldn't want you to do it..means that she shouldn't be doing it..now at that point, it does become a respect issue.
if she expects you to respect her wishes..then she should yours, a relationship is about fairness, give and take, trust and mutual respect..do on to others as you want them to do onto you..if you know what i mean.
so in a nutshell..she shouldn't serve a dish that she would eat herself! seriously.
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