If your therapist says you have BPD you don't really have it. Let me explain. For quite sometime I self-diagnosed and proudly announced to the world that "I'm Borderline." I announced it to my psychiatrist who said "No. You're not..but you seem to have traits - from what you tell me." So does that mean when I'm having the traits I'm borderline? Or am I borderline-lite?

I'm none of the above. Borderline has become a handy label for those of us who suffer from extreme depression, extreme fragility, uncontrollable emotions, paranoia and some kinds of acting out behavior. But the label isn't important and may very well be changed and changed again in the DSM. What I have is problems. Everyone has problems. It's handling them thats the issue.