Vivienne said, "My mother does not know that I lost my virginity, it would only add up to my trauma."

There is no law, natural or otherwise, that says you have to disclose anything about your sexual activities to your parents or to anyone else. If they expect you to be that open with them, well, that's just too bad. And if they were to judge you negatively because you "lost your virginity," well, they need a head shake. You are human, and therefore sexual, and humans do what humans do, and most of us do what we do to the best of their ability.

I'm guessing that you were taught very little about sexuality, and that some very strong sex-negative lessons were pressed on you. However, it might be useful for you to think not of the hurt that your boyfriend caused (you are right to drop him permanently), but there is this: you learned some valuable lessons about sexuality and people. I hope you can move on from here, and pay more attention — much more! — to your needs than to your parents' needs.

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