Hi donaquixote,

He seems to focus on the past in general. How everything somehow relates to years ago. He compares his childhood to my children's, even though times change and things are different, as each generation is. He
only watches the old shows on TV land and listens to the oldies radio station, not liking current music or tv shows, or the any of the newer trends, technology, etc. He often brings up stuff from our childhood, the happy and neutral things. He never brings up any negative stuff, even though we had a lot of it growing up. I think he likes to pretend things were better. He really doesn't have much else to talk about since he doesn't work, date, socialize, have any hobbies, travel or do anything other than hang out with our mother.

He just does not deal with change of any kind and does his best to avoid it. He does not talk about his plans or his future, ever. It is very sad. Yes, a therapist could probably help him tremendously. But I could never see him going without being dragged there. I am sorry that you get stuck in the past too. So do I sometimes, and it is hard to let it go. I also can not afford a therapist right now either. So I try to do something to distract me from those thoughts. Try to keep busy. Playing with my kids also helps me focus on them instead of my own junk. I also I find that planning something positive and looking ahead seem to help, too. Good luck to you.