he can't find a job so wants to give you an ultimatum? that seems rather backwards. sadly, if he doesn't apply for a whole lot more jobs he will probably still be living with his parents when he's 40. okay, sorry to be snarky, but no, i absolutely would not move back and live with his family in a place you consider a black hole. i think you might end up staying there until you are 40 as well. on his parents couch, lol. have you told him how many jobs you've applied for? it sounds like he needs to get some perspective about the job market. if he is a college graduate i don't understand why he'd be applying for security jobs unless that is his chosen field he wants to pursue. he will be competing with people who have no college degree and the applicant pool will be that much larger. does he have an entry level career job he wants to pursue? he may not get it right away but at least applying for it would be good unless security is what he wants to go into.