I see all kinds of resentment building on both ends. If you move back and it does not work - resentment. If he comes where you are and it does not work - resentment. One of you can take a "chance". It may or may not work...but that is the growing pains of life. He may feel much more secure being home. I know you already given it a lot of time...but I would say give it more time less pressure for now. Not a great answer but there is really no perfect answer for either of you because you do not know what the future will bring.

And as far as counseling....for both...there are support groups and centers that will see you and have a "sliding scale" regarding your income. If you both want to improve your lives with or without each other - find a way to get help.You are here and that is a start. That would be a red flag for me...knowing what I know now - if my partner was not doing well and did not try to find out ways to get better - not sure he is the person for me. My x did not want to get help. He just wanted me to get help - which has been ongoing for me. I guess he did not want the marriage bad enough.