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Originally Posted by Depletion
I know that you are trying to be helpful, but research on the TELL website says that the trauma that when clients under go when abandon by a therapist, is second only to the trauma of being abandon by a parent.
What happened to Coconut is very serious. T's whenever possible should make an effort to have a closure session with a client, and are obligate to give the client a minimum of three referrals. T's who abandon their clients can be sanctioned and lose their license.
Coconut you need to find another T who you can process what happened. This kind of abandonment can be very damaging, and you deserve to heal from what happened.
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Look, I'm not saying that it's not a trauma. I'm not saying that it's not painful, or awful. I thought I made that clear. Sudden termination is unethical and I indicated that in post.
However, I think even with the most horrible trauma, there is always room for some perspective about it. It comes with time, and it hurts right now, but the mental framework within which we view these things can help our process.
We can either view it as a life destroying event, or we can view it as something to overcome, something we survived. And that someone who was bad did something bad to us. We are shaken, but not broken.
I think we need to deal with the shaken. Place focus on regaining our footing, our strength. Sometimes we need to say "i'm not giving this guy another moment of my time". It doesn't mean that we aren't going to give him another moment, but with that statement we are getting our lives back a little at a time.
I appreciate your comments and understand how you may have missed my intent.
I hope this clarifies my thoughts on the matter.