This is primarily why I signed up for this forum. I obsessed about a woman who accepted me when my wife rejected me. Goes back to mental abuse I had as a child from my mother making me attach to this woman despite the fact logically I know she's not for me. Emotionally I thought of her all the time. I could hardly work, and the work I did wasn't good at all for what I normally do.

The only thing I could do was to completely break off communication with her, and resolve myself to never contact her again. It's been very difficult to do this. And I know it's not fixing my problem, but making me feel ok again at times. Once I'm over her more, I fel I'll have strength to tackle my real issues.

Not saying this will work for you, but I know now horrible it is to obsess over another person. I've never experienced emotional weakness like this before and its bad. Hopefully coming here and being active on this forum will help. I'm hoping the same for myself. Good luck!