big issue that one ,i have done many things in my life only with hindsight do i look back and realise why i did them i usually did them for self preservation and survival,doesn't help me in forgiving myself.failure to forgive yourself can be due to your early years,i was brought up in a harsh unforgiving environment where the slightest error was punished, forgiveness was not in the equation if anything the only way to be good was by being bad!! the words that still haunt me are my father's 'you can forgive but can't forgive' i know now that as an adult we all make mistakes and i am one of the most forgiving people i know ,trouble is i can't forgive myself,i see it as part of self harming behaviour i have asked my higher power to allow me to forgive myself,i have a daily mantra' we must forgive ourselves for our weaknesses ' but the guilt still goes on.... hope you forgive yourself x