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Originally Posted by Perna
I would reframe. You are not unilaterally attached to your T, you are in relationship with him. Your T cares about you as a person also. That is what "real" relationships are about. Yes, you are vulnerable and will probably hurt on some level when you and he part/terminate if it is done at the "end" of your therapy, just as he will. I believe if we do not go through such a relationship, we do not fully learn to relate and we are our normal "island" selves unable to figure out how to build bridges to another or provide bedrock support on our side for theirs.
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my t reminds me of this. whenever i talk about it he tries to remind me that it's a 'relationship' and not just me. he does care and has said so and has been very open that he does enjoy meeting with me and that he worries about me. i guess deep down, i don't know what to do with that. like, okay, great, but this is all going to come to an end (which is the story of my life and relationships) and so it's hard now for me to accept it all. does that make sense?
you're absolutely right that if i don't learn to do this, i will continue to be alone and he knows that. he keeps talking about my walls and trying to break them down. oh for crying out loud. i am such a mess.