It's hard to get to the point in which you can actually feel that pain in therapy, and have your T share it with you. I think a lot of defenses come up in therapy to prevent us from having to confront that pain. But-- however strong our defenses, we cannot help the fact that emotions get seriously tossed and turned during our sessions-- so we feel it afterwards. I believe the goal is to get to a point of safety with the therapist, so that the emotions can be dealt with in the room. It sounds like you're doing great so far-- you are obviously opening up enough to get that jolt of emotion afterwards. Definitely share your experience with your T!