it's not selfish, it's a normal part of being who you are, sex and sexuality is a beautiful thing..especially when you can share it with the person you love..it deepens the bond and connection you have & it also just happens to feel great.

you shouldn't have to "switch it off' that would be like saying..i wish i could not need food, it's part of being a normal human being & getting your needs met.

i admire you, you are a better man than me, NO WAY would i put up with a lack of sex, i'm NOT doing it.

if she can't get the job done..there are others who will..it is obvious this is a HUGE problem and it will only get worse.

i have had ex's that we did "the deed" 3 times a day..first thing in the morning, some point during the day and before we went to bed..i slept great every night!

now no one is saying you have to have it that often..but once a month is uncalled for..do you eat once a month..NO do you shower once a month NO..at least i hope not! do you go to work once a month..probably not.

something is up, idk your wife, but it could be that she is cheating idk..once a month isn't right something is wrong here