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I'm sorry but I'm not shaken. I was broken before I started therapy, that's why I went. Now I'm shattered, the last place I want to go to is to start another professional relationship. That's the excuse he gave me that it was a professional relationship and that he didn't owe me anything. I'm so ashamed that I wanted him to help me, to be at his office feeling safe again when to him it meant nothing. He has moved on with his life. After a month or two after he terminated me, he was advertising at one of those professional sites mentioning he had availability. For him it's just a revolving door. He moved on but I was left mortally wounded on the battlefield. He then got married, went to Maui on his honeymoon and he now has a website because he read an article that Ts need to have a website with a photo to create a personal brand and so that clients can feel connected to them. One of my patterns is that in relationships I end up rejected/abandoned. He knew that but he did it anyway. So it has to be me. All me. So no, I'm not putting myself through that again. Ever.
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Therapy should always be more than a professional relationship. Are there professional boundaries and expectations, of course, but T's do something that is personal, and it should have some personal meaning for them. They should care about you deeply and in the right ways.
What your T did is very wrong, I'm so sorry that it has made you feel like you cannot trust T's. I hope that some point you are able to find a new T. If you think it might be healing you might consider notifying the professional boar your T is associated with of his actions.
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Depletion thank you for your understanding and for clarifying how painful this all is. I'm sorry you had to go through it as well.
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I appreicate you saying this. I hope that you are able to heal from everything that went on. No one deserves to be abandon.
You can PM me if you want to talk more.