Hi Silent.

Of all the things you're dealing with right now, please...don't let that worry you too. I do certainly understand your concern, absolutely I do. But I would offer this as a counterpoint. Growing up as a child and having visitation rights with my father, I observed him completely lose his temper and go absolutely ballistic more times than I care to count. Usually, unfortunately, my stepmother garnered the brunt of his attention. I observed that for seven years before I ended visitation...which is a whole 'nother story, but we'll save that one for later. :P

The point I bring up in offering that story is that sometimes, a negative example can be as powerful as a positive example. Sometimes, an example of what *not* to be or what *not* to do is a powerful thing. You seem confident in her intelligence, and she seems mature based off what you've said. I trust, in the long run and if you speak to her about this in the future, she'll be okay.

Speaking more directly to you, I won't weigh in on the sexting. That's not my place, and much has already been said. But I did want to offer that you are making a very wise choice in leaving, I believe. He sounds like a textbook case of emotional and verbal abuse, and neither you nor your daughter need that. I would offer, if you can, that if you can find a way to capture and document some of his behavior, that might be beneficial to you. Perhaps an audio recording on some device he can't access or doesn't know about (he seems tech savvy to a fault, which I can't confidently work around...anyone who knows how to retrieve and store deleted data has me beat)? Something to give you a leg to stand on in court. My mother (thank God) did the same thing to my father...he didn't have a legal leg to stand on in divorce court thanks to my mother being *meticulous* about documentation.

Hugs Silent. I do hope things work out for the best, and very soon.

Hugs,
Harley