I am brand new today to this set of psych forums. This is one of my main topics of Interest. I believe I married someone with NPD and we have been apart for almost 3 years. ( I had to leave because he wouldn't -while still having kids most of the time. This was also After over a year if intense couples counseling. .. Minimal change ..anger issues, control, lack of respect for me / kids...
Hero for everyone else... Superficial appearances of utmost importance ..
Said he doesn't want a divorce because he doesn't want to be "those people".
He says he still loves me & "WANTs" to "get it", wants to. "Be a family", yet he can give me no specific reasons why he loves, or likes me... He just loves me...
I find that I trust nothing he says as anything more than manipulation. I have made it clear that I am not interested.
Too much hurt!! Not wanting life of being mentally and emotionally abused...
I have written a lot, but this post caught my eye and I am wondering if you are a narc, were you diagnosed professionally?
Do you have any insights for me ?
How do I get him to finally agree to divorce?
Is it possible for a narc to "think " they are in love when it is not really possible for them to love anything ore than themselves?

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