<font color="purple"> I can only speak from my own experience with this.. ... yrs ago I started talking online to a guy that turned into what I consider to be cheating, an emotional affair... which in MY opinion is worse than a physical.... my affair did eventually turn physical and my husband found out about it and confronted me.... I intended on divorcing m husband at the time but I decided I needed to give our marriage an honest hard working on since my hsuband was then at a point where he was willing to work on it too.... It was a long hard process , we made it........

I think that talking is not cheating, as long as your husband isn't hiding what it si he is talking about, when he hides his emails, IM's or wont share with you any of their conversatations or doesnt talk with her while you are present then I feel it becomes cheating an usually consitutes as an emotional affair at that point..... When I was talking to the other guy at first I didnt have any porblem doing so in front of my husband than I bcame secretive about it, hiding IM's, emails, etc... phone calls.... I would get upset and defensive if he wanted to read ovre my shoulder or ask me questions...I would stay up late at night or spend all my time at home online with thsi guy and it just kept rolling....

I havent yet read the other responses, but I imagine you have receieved many different opinions ..... I hope that you and your husband can work through this in a positive way before it does become what your defintion of an affair is....

I am willing to answer any questions that you may have about my experience if you feel it help in anyway....

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