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I find myself doing this at times as well. I am able to take the lead in many situations. There are a few others that I work with or who I am social with that I "let" them take the lead. One of the people I am talking about - I know it is a compromise on my part. She is very controling and I "let" her take the lead because it's easier - and not worth being the leader at times. Somethings I will feel very principled about something then I will stand my ground.
Other times I am showing respect and courtesy. If it is "their show" I do not need to take the lead. As I get to know someone, I will let them be "who they are" and figure out how I WANT to fit in.
With my brothers...everyone wants to be the leader - that's always entertaining.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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