I am glad you took this step of talking with your wife and getting started. I was struck by your wife's above sentiment because it occurred to me you could use it as additional help -- the money you were spending on weed now supports the therapy? I think that is a great trade of activities?

I dropped out of grad school, not for bad grades (A's in all the courses I'd taken) but because I realized I did not really want it, it wasn't going to do anything for me in the future, I just enjoyed "studying", the challenge of taking the courses and writing the papers, etc. I switched "hobbies" slightly and now I am still able to take grad courses (just finished an online diploma course at Oxford!) but it all ties in better to my actual desires/life. In my later schooling (I got my second BA at 57 years old then started grad school) I finally realized that it is all for me, what I want and has nothing to do with the grades they want to give me or what they want me to learn, etc., it is about what I want to learn and how I want to use what I learn.