I think mild anxiety over decisions can be a good thing -- making us pause and reconsider our decision. Sometimes we have anxiety for a good reason -- because what we're about to do is a mistake.

I went through a period in my life where I found it nearly impossible to make ANY decisions because of my anxiety, though. My ex-boyfriend died in a car crash. He and I had had an argument just before he left a pub. He drove drunk, fell asleep at the wheel, lost control and died. I went over that evening -- minute by minute -- in my mind, imagining what the outcome would have been if I had done something differently. I ended up going through a six-month period where I was afraid to make any decisions at all... because I felt that any decision I made could have horrible repercussions... one split-second decision on my part could result in someone's death. I over-thought everything and couldn't bring myself to make even simple decisions -- like whether or not to ask a friend to meet me for dinner... because what if I asked them to come and they got hit by a car on the way? Then it would be MY fault.

I eventually realized that I can't control EVERYTHING and learned to let go of my anxiety over decision-making. I try to give things sober second thought and ask myself if my anxiety over certain decisions is reasonable. Sometimes anxiety can stop us from making bad decisions, but when it gets out of control, it can stop us from making any and ALL decisions.