Patience with me, is huge. And my current T definitely has that one down!
I do NOT want a therapist to sit there and try to put words in my mouth. T2 tried that and I pretty much told him where to stick it and walked out of my first and only appointment with the jerk. And knowing how to build and maintain a good therapeutic relationship is very important too. I didn't know that at first, with T1, I saw her for 6 months or so before I just stopped going. I know now, that it never would have worked because we had absolutely zero connection. With T3, current T, we connected almost immediately and have developed a deep therapeutic relationship that has been the basis of the healing that I have found through therapy and continue to experience.