A good T to me is someone who doesn't try to fit me in to a frame work. I've had a lot of T's who seem to think that I fit in such and such box, or that if I just do XYZ I will get better. This really irks me. It makes me think that they aren't paying attention to me, and that they don't really want to interact with me, they just want to interact with my "illness." I want to feel like the T is really invested in understanding who I am, and will help me find the way that works best for me.

I once saw a T for only a couple of sessions who told me that if I didn't start meditating I wasn't going to get better. I told him that when I meditated I just relived my SA, but he didn't seem to care. Truly one of the most insensitive people I have ever met.