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Originally Posted by junkDNA
one time when within the first year i started working with my T i was standing in his doorway talking to another staff person and T came up behind me and hugged me around my neck from behind. even the staff person i was talking to was a little shocked. i think she said "woah". i moved away and felt a little uncomfortable. after a while and when i think back on it now it was kind of inappropriate as i have issues of sexual abuse with a former T. i was surprised too because he came from behind and i wasnt expecting any of that from him. i never talked to him about it but it doesnt really bother me much now. i think T was just excited and forgot his boundaries and mine for a moment. Ts make mistakes. he has never done anything like that again and im pretty sure if he did i would say something now. i had a hard time verbalizing my emotions in the beginning so i never said anything. i know 100% in my head and in my heart that T would Never cross a sexual boundary with me. we hug sometimes but now its always asked for or offered.
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yeah. touch hasn't been a part of our therapy. he's touched my back or my arm on occasion, but this shocked the crap out of me. which i think was half the point. maybe. i'll ask him about it when i see him next. but i think he'll be receptive to me when i explain the deal.
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