Although it's hard to think of anything else than 'what could've been' or 'if i'd just' ...it isn't the answer to look back, even if it pains you, try and look to the future and more importantly the present. Don't rush yourself to try and evaporate your thoughts, but just learn to cope with them, until they go away. That is what i'm trying to grapple with and it is an extremely slow process at present.

Tc