Thanks for your reply,It has helped.
I am giving her the space and not texting her now.I am encouraging her dad not to cut her off for me,as my daughter still wants him in her life,he is upset because she is now using alcohol as a reason for everything and like my husband says its rediculous because I only go out once a week and never use alcohol at home,I do not have any kind of drink issue,I work nights thurs fri sat so dont go out until sunday afternoons.
I have racked my brains crazy wondering what the hell does she want from me,I think she loves the attention from everyone that this conflict brings due to the fact she has caused more trouble by running to people and blowing out of proportion things I have said and made it sound like I caused trouble even though she knows the truth e.g I had been out on a sunday and she called round and we chatted about the baby, I asked her if I could ask her a serious question,she said yes,I then asked her nicely if she thought her baby would be safe around his sister after everything she told me about the 2 kids under 5 having broken bones ect, her reply was omg mom of course,the ex boyfrend of hers has admitted it was him,an besides Im not stupid and will not leave my baby alone with her..I was ok with this answer and relieved.my daughter went home.I carried on going to visit my grandaughter in special care and text my daughter every day but she either didnt text me back or texted me a day later,It got to the point I texted and asked her why she was not answering my texts no answer.I texted her again and said are u ok.she then text back a load of abuse saying this and that then her boyfriend text me saying I had slagged off his sister and mom and him behind his back and was not welcome in their life.(my daughter had gone running to him about the conversation in my house the week before and blown it all up)...my daughter blamed my "drinking"

I give up