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Old Jul 20, 2014, 07:36 PM
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Sorry I haven't been on in a while. Things have been pretty crazy.

So my parents have had a drinking problem for at least as long as I've been alive (I'm 21). They drink multiple types of alcoholic beverages every day, starting from the moment they wake up until they fall asleep. My mom is more of a functioning alcoholic. She still has a job and friends. My dad is mildly functioning, he is disabled and spends most of his time either at his computer or in his chair watching TV. Sometimes he plays golf.

They've had this obsession with wine for a long time, and I realize now that it's truly an obsession. A good portion of my childhood memories take place in wineries. A lot of our decorations, our plates, our cups, have something to do with wine. They drink up to an entire bottle each per day. People might suspect they have a drinking problem if they see them out at bars because my mom acts very strange when she's drunk, but it's when people come over that they see how bad it is.

Yesterday was my mom's day off, so she and my dad did what they usually do; they went to the casino around 10 or 11 AM, drank and spent about 3 hours there, then went bar hopping to their favorite places and saw their friends. They didn't come home until about 7:30 PM, which is when the trouble started.

My dad has been falling a lot lately. It usually happens when he sleeps in his chair in the living room, which is his preferred spot because he feels he sleeps better there. However, he is much more likely to get up, and when he does he's usually under the influence of pain meds, sleeping pills, and heavy drinking. Combined, these drugs make his legs go weak. One particular fall caused him to tear his rotator cuff in his shoulder and he had surgery for it about two weeks ago.

When he got home yesterday he physically could not get out of the passenger seat (my mom had been driving and was too intoxicated to help him). His left arm is in a sling and his right arm is very weak, so he had to rely on his legs, which could not move. It took my boyfriend and I about half an hour to drag him across the garage floor and into the entrance of the house. From there, we had about 16 stairs to cover and then 50 or so feet to get him to bed, but he's 160 pounds and we simply couldn't lift him anymore. He was going to crawl his way up the stairs but he couldn't do it, and was resigned to sleeping on the floor of the entryway. I tried to get my mom to help, but she was incomprehensible and fell down the stairs a few times. That's when I dialed 911.

They took my dad to the emergency room, ran the usual tests, took blood, x-rayed his arm, etc. They said his blood alcohol level was 253 (they didn't specify where the decimal was but implied that it was a lot). I was able to take him home at midnight, and I got him and my mom together and told them that I'm not going to watch them circle the drain like this. I removed the easily accessible alcohol last night and everything else today. Left enough behind that if they drink in moderation, they might be able to wean themselves off of it and avoid withdrawal.

My question is: Is there anything else I can do? I informed my older brother that lives a few states away. He had no idea it was this bad and is going to try to do something about it. I've got their main source of alcohol (30ish bottles?) tucked away in the only place I could hide it, but I can't stop them from going out and drinking all day. I need some way to get through to them. Any and all advice is welcome.

Thank you for listening, I just needed to vent.
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