Hello - my first post. I have been married for ten years, with two children. Husband and I have never really had the same sex drive (with maybe the exception of the early relationship). It has never really been a huge issue until recently. Husband had a vasectomy December 2013.

I would say that on average, we have intercourse 3 times/week. I do not feel that this is unusual or below average (in my opinion). Lately, however, I have felt my husband's attitude changing. He is starting to seem put off, moody, or seems to take it personally when I do not want to be intimate. He has also changed in other ways.

He never used to be one for much communication. He sends me several texts now, during the work day, about how he can't wait for the evening (he is expecting intimacy) which, I feel extremely pressured by. I feel like I am expected to do it at least every other day now, and I am so exhausted by these feelings. He is turning into someone that I no longer know, and it scares me. He has even, in the past week, started masturbating in front of me (or where I could tell what he was doing). I am not anti-masturbation, however, I do believe it is something to be done in private and the fact that he has done this out of the blue - frankly, it disturbs me. What is he trying to convey by doing this? Is he doing this to make me feel guilty that I am not taking care of his needs? Does he think that I get turned on my seeing that? I have no idea, and I am scared to bring it up, for fear that he will shut down and get defensive. This morning, in fact, I had to tell him to please not do that where others could see (i.e. the kids). Am I being unreasonable? PLEASE HELP!