I do not know that the people were wrong or ill intending. I do think that being in the field particularly they could have done this differently. More class. More empathy. More thoughtful to you as an individual. Well... yes perhaps wrong.. In the long run it certainly could have been done better.

I think you need to confront them however you would feel safe to do so and I feel that you should hold your head high. We all have difficult times at work. It happens. It could have been done differently.

Perhaps open up a dialogue with them to determine why they felt they needed to go that way. How were things left from your talking of your concerns and stress? Did they persue assisting you or did they just withdraw at call EAP... Did you withdraw? It is hard to know without knowing the whole situation but I would think that if they wished you to be connected with EAP that they should have discussed it with you and, if you would have approved, one could have stayed with you to assist you with getting the help they thought you needed or getting you connected...with something acceptable to you. Doing it behind your back... yes wrong.