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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
I don't think the subject is inappropriate, but I do question the timing. This is all hypothetical and at least a year off. I wonder if the need to ask this now is more about your recent rupture within the context of your on-going struggle with money issues.
I also think your life choices have to take priority. If it comes to pass that you change jobs (and at this point you really can't know what a new job will pay), you make that decision on the basis of what's best for your life. How it effects your time/money spent in therapy is a secondary issue. Cross that bridge when you come to it.
Sometimes obsessively trying to control future circumstances is less about prudent planning and more about creating paralysis/distraction in the present.
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I agree my life choices take priority. If my income dropped significantly and she couldn't compromise ratewise, I'd switch therapists. I can't keep a job to keep a therapist, no matter how awesome.
I don't think I'm obsessively trying to control the future: I'm asking her once to give me a sense of whether she'd compromise her rate if my income dropped, because this is the period I'm starting to evaluate job prospects, income range, etc. I do always plan ahead. I am more mindful of it after our little rupture but also because I've just begun looking more at job prospects now that I'm in my senior year and have a better sense of probable income levels.
But I'm mindful that what you said about creating distraction in the present, and I am one of the leading procrastinators of my age, I'd posit, so...
I'll make sure not to waste the hour tomorrow catastrophizing about fees.
Knowing my therapist, she'll say something reassuring anyway about working it out. I'm a good client. She's a good therapist, and I think we've been very fair with each other.