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Old Jul 21, 2014, 04:55 AM
ComicBookMommy ComicBookMommy is offline
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Originally Posted by NothingCanStopYou! View Post
Hi
I've been trying to recover from bulimia for a little over a year now and I think it's hard to say stop cold turkey especially because the nature of our ED is to be perfectionists so if one day we DO have a slip up then we will be even more angry with ourselves.

There can certainly be other ways that suit other people for certain. It is purely my opinion that whether by yourself, with therapy, at a treatment center, and after, one only needs to WANT bad enough to quit to stop the physical habit of purging for it to be a success ( of course mental is a whole nother kaboodle...). And by "WANT" I mean, wanting to stop more than you want whatever bulimia gives you. I know everyone wants to stop on some level.

Having dealt for 15 years with my bulimic sister, who has had all the best treatment from the best therapists, the best treatment centers, the best everything, none of it helped her the slightest (though again, that is just her, I am certain they help others just fine). Then I began to notice... In talking with her about it, there is ALWAYS and excuse and lies she told herself to make her habits and not quitting legitimate in her mind. "I don't have anyone to help me through it" "I can't be alone or it will happen so I won't bother trying" "I HAVE to do it when I get stressed" " I relapsed because I fought with my boyfriend and I couldn't help it" Etc. Etc. Finally I realized, she does not get better, because deep down, she does not WANT to get better. This same trait has existed in most bulimics/anorexics I have known. If they do not WANT to quit, they will not. In all her excuses she paints herself powerless to her disease, but the truth is, she is not. In every scenario she was the only one making herself walk to the bathroom and purge, so she CHOSE to. She was not powerless. She could have chosen otherwise if she really wanted to stop.

I also find many bulimics don't like to know they CAN "just stop" because they deep down don't want to let bulimia go, and they don't like knowing that the answer to their problem is in actuality all in their own hands, and that they're solely responsible, because the excuse of "I need XYZ to happen or I can't quit" is taken away from them, and they don't like that. I should know, I had excuses out the wazoo for a long time.

So yes, I totally agree one must find their own path to recovery, but I find it sad when people write off "cold turkey" as a legitimate choice because it can work for those who are ready. It is free, and could be started immediately... but only if you truly want it to stop.

Last edited by ComicBookMommy; Jul 21, 2014 at 05:51 AM.