The ideal T for me would have to be the one I have. She is kind, compassionate, sincere, gentle, soft-spoken, has soothing voice, even typed words in her Emails can calm me down. She doesn't treat me like "her job," she treats me like she truly cares, and wants to see me succeed. She was able to read me well right off the start, after only a couple of sessions she knew me better than I knew myself. She has surprised me by her memory, remembering things, and peoples' names, etc....since I only saw her take notes on our very first session. My T also gives amazing hugs. After a tough session, there's nothing better than being invited into a long, tight hug before being sent back off into the world again. She is also accepting, and encouraging, of Emails between sessions, in fact, just last night, after not hearing from me after our last session, she sent me a Email telling me she was thinking of me and hoping I was ok after that tough session (since she hadn't heard from me). Actually, I was absorbing the session some, but also have been very busy with home duties sine that appointment. That made me feel good. At this point there is nothing I would change, except that I would have gone to see her sooner than I did.