For me a good T is requires a lot. I need somebody who is caring and compassionate, and consistent like many here have already said. I need somebody who is:

*There for me more than the 1 hour a week we have sessions.
*Understands my insecurities and lack of trust.
*Is not judgemental
*Knows when I need her to push me and when to back away a little bit.
*Is able to change the subject when I really need it.
*Can work with my stubbornness. Don't make me feel like an idiot until "get it"
*willing to try different strategies when necessary