there are still a few targets for my hatred. i'm even worse about having aversions. my spiritual teachings call these "one of the three poisons of the spirit". the other two are "grasping/clinging" and "indifference/ignorance".

understanding that these 'cognitive/emotional patterns' are self-destructive is the first step in letting go of them. realizing that they cause nothing but more damage in the environment is another way of letting go. the important thing is NOT to justify them, indulge them, coddle them, or otherwise support their existance.

be horrified every time they express themselves. likely they were learned very young, if not inborn, and must be rooted out with diligence.
here is the forumula i was taught for changing those things which resist our efforts:

1. DECIDE to change
2. Decide WHAT to change
3. CHANGE as much and as often as one can
4. PRAISE yourself for every time you change, no matter how much

the inner child craves approval, approve of those qualities which lead to harmlessness and understanding~
best wishes to all seeking peace of mind and generosity of spirit~
Gus