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I think there could be some good compromise. Find a way to talk about it - without rejection - let him know that you want to play...but you want a part in making the rules for fun. Then tell him what you want. Your brain will keep sex exciting - the more you spend time thinking about him seducing you or what ever you like - the more you will desire him. You have to keep it alive - when you are going to pick up the kids from school, or going to the store, or wherever - remember what he looked like when he got out of the shower that morning (or whatever makes you tick).
I think you "get it".... before we start triggering people lol.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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