Hello,

I started dating my boyfriend a few months ago (he's 31) and he told me that he was diagnosed with aspergers when he was in high school; however, he has never seen a therapist since or taken any meds for it. The unique situation here is that I have bipolar type 1 so as you can imagine we have some difficulty communicating. He seems to have a hard time expressing his emotions or listening to me when I try to talk to him seriously. He shuts me down and says there is nothing more to talk about and says that I have to work through any issues/problems I have and learn learn to deal with them myself like he does (and NOT see a therapist or take any of my meds for bipolar because they stunt people emotionally and doesn't allow development and only act as a crutch). So I'm wondering, Is this behavior typical for an adult with aspergers (inability to talk about anything serious/emotional) or is he being a complete JERK! He said he wants to keep our relationship 'light' because it's getting too heavy but I'm seriously ready to just walk out....Any advice on helping me understand? I do want to see if he would be willing to go to my next appt to see my Psychologist because she would be a professional mediator for us to communicate/talk. But I doubt he would go for that...