I agree completely, about doing those things that interest you. Instead of trying to find where the men are, and trying to please them into liking you. For instance, if you like movies, join a group that caters to that interest. You'd be doing something that you like, and thus behaving more naturally who you are. Men like realness. Being your genuine self, involved with yiur genuine interests is much more likely to not just meet someone, but more likely to have compatibility.