Yikes!

I can see no merit in it all. Perhaps your therapist is thinking along the lines of some form of implosion therapy where your son would be flooded with the full experience of being a full-time adult baby/diaper lover. The idea would be that after a while he would become numbed to or averse to the experience and wouldn't want to do it any longer.

It's the way I quit smoking. Through a work situation I was exposed to smoke-heavy environments populated by people who were hacking and coughing up phlegm as they kept lighting up. It was disgusting. I never smoked again. I'd tried many times to quit before with little success. Implosion works for that sort of thing.

But I don't see how it would work for a sexual fetish like your son's. In fact, I think it could and would have very deleterious unintended consequence.

First of all, unless he's totally disconnected from reality, you son already knows he can't be an infant full-time. He has to go to school and go out in the world and he knows that. But like every kid, he's not averse to pushing the boundaries to see just how far his parents will allow him to go. That's pretty normal for any kid for just about any kind of behavior. If he gets bored with being a full-time baby, it doesn't mean the fetish is cured or he's been nudged over to more typical sexual expressions. It just means he got bored in the moment.

This is a sexual fantasy/fetish, part of your son's sexual awakening. Do you really want your son to connect his sexual feelings with you and your wife changing his diaper?

Do you remember what changing a poopy diaper entails. It means wiping down and cleaning up his penis, scrotum and buttocks, spreading his butt cheeks apart to make sure you've removed all urine and feces in order to avoid diaper rash and infection.

Do you want mum and dad touching his private parts to be part of his sexual imprinting? I don't think so. I know you don't. It's too creepy to contemplate.

Next is the whole issue of trying to "cure" a sexual fetish, trying to nudge it over to more conventional or typical expressions. I don't know if that's even possible. In my opinion (and I could be wrong,) I think its akin to trying to cure homosexuality and transsexuality with therapy. The best you can hope for from therapy is that you, your wife and your son learn acceptance and understanding and proper boundaries as he expresses his impulses.

I talked to my daughter, the fetishist, about this. She's tried to moderate her fetish behavior and to learn how and when to express it and therapy helped her with that. It didn't get rid of the fetish. There have been at least two incidents where she got in over her head. She called me on her cell phone and I talked her right into a taxi and home to safety. That's what therapy accomplished. Acceptance, no shame, no secrets and knowing one's boundaries. Right now, your son doesn't yet know proper boundaries with this and neither do you. If you start changing his diapers, all boundaries will have been crossed.

There's no reason it will take weeks to coax your son back into his room. There's no coaxing necessary. If you allow him the run of the common living area as a baby, pooping his pants and crying to be changed, then the only thing he's going to learn is how to be a selfish git with no consideration for others. Even worse, he'll learn he can coerce people into participating in his sexual fantasy. Not good. Not good at all.

If he decided to unzip in front of the television to self-pleasure in front of the rest of the family, you'd stop him. You'd tell him no. Hopefully, you'd tell him about boundaries, respect for other people and about the things that are okay to do in private, but not in public.

Engaging you and your wife to fondle his genitals and buttocks with baby wipes is not okay. Engaging you to clean up his urine and excrement is not okay. There is no way in the world that you and your wife want to become connected in his mind or in any other way with his masturbatory fantasies. Please consider telling the therapist no. The risk if far greater than any potential benefit.

You can continue to offer your love, support and acceptance, even when you're saying no and setting boundaries. If it takes you more than five minutes to tell him that and if he refuses to comply, you've got a problem that's way bigger than a sexual fetish.

Don't be surprised if he tantrums on you. After all, that's what infants do when thwarted. Give him a time-out in his room and reclaim the rest of your house for the entire family.