Well, Rh01, I hate to go against the recommendations of a qualified therapist. But I see a bunch of potential problems here. First of all, has your son actually stated in so many words that he wants to go back to being a baby, or is this the supposition that is being made based on his actions & the way he has decorated his room? How does this relate to the idea of this whole situation being related to him exploring his sexuality?

I would certainly agree that there is no cause for alarm here. And, yes, in order for any therapist to work with your son, there's going to be a period of several weeks, or maybe longer, before they're going to be able to develop a level of trust.

Where I start to have difficulty is with the idea of him returning to being a baby at home. The reason for my concern here is, he can't be at home 24/7 presumably. If nothing else, I would assume he's going to have to go back to school in the fall. So, while he's living as a baby at home, he's having to revert 180 degrees every morning & go to school, then come home & do it again in reverse. Monday mornings could be a real shock, if he enjoys being a baby.

This question of changing nappies also concerns me. First of all, can you & your wife change his nappies for, perhaps, weeks or months? This isn't going to be like changing a baby's nappies. And what if your son decides he likes it? How long are you prepared to do this for? What's the "exit strategy"? Also, has anyone actually talked with him about this? Does he want to have you & your wife changing him? The fact that he wears diapers doesn't automatically mean he wants you changing them or should have you changing them either for that matter. Or is he to be forced to have you change them because that's what is done for babies? That could make diaper changing quite an aversive event.

Then, with regard to taking away his "gadgets", of course, it makes sense that if one wants to be a baby, one should not expect to have "gadgets". However, even if your son reverts to babyhood, he's not really a baby & as such taking away his gadgets may be interpreted, by him, as punishment more than as the logical outcome of the choice he's making. I suppose this is one of the things that the therapist would be working to help him understand. However, this presumes that your son & the therapist are able to develop the necessary bond. To me, it also suggests there is an assumption this is a choice your son is making. He's choosing to adopt baby-like behaviors & so he needs to be shown what being a baby is all about... then he'll hopefully change his mind.

As other PC'ers who've responded to your previous posts have pointed out, there are many competent fully-functioning adults who have the types of predilections your son has. I'm not convinced that there is any choice occurring here. I'm inclined to think that these kinds of things are probably "hard-wired" into the brain, so to speak. And, if in fact this is the case, then trying to get your son to "change his mind" by taking away his gadgets & changing his nappies could be seen as abusive, not therapeutic. And, speaking of abusive, I don't know where you live, of course, but in the state of Minnesota in the U.S., there is a strong anti-child abuse sentiment with local, county & state organizations & government agencies to match. They do allot of good. But, in their zeal, they don't always get it right. Depending on how much child protection activity there is where you live, you may want to approach this whole thing carefully, lest things get out of hand quickly & without warning.