Secretum offers excellent advice. Your sexual interests are personal and don't need to be broadcast to the world. I understand your desire — anyone who is "different" in any way wants to be accepted, as I know all too well — but acceptance doesn't depend on telling the world everything about your life. You can be a friend, a confidant, and an advocate without revealing your food preferences, your past embarrassments, or your bank account balance, or your political leanings. Likewise, your sexuality, which is an important part of who you are, but not the only part, does not need to be a part of your public persona. I know several gay men, not because they are gay but because we share some non-sexual interests and in some cases are neighbours. How they enjoy sex and who they enjoy it with is almost never a part of conversations with them because that information is simply irrelevant. I have learned about their sexuality in "organic" ways, through casual conversations, being introduced to their partners, being invited to dinner in their homes, and meeting them and their partners on walks. Not once that I can remember has one of them intentionally "come out" to me.

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