My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. He works full time as well as farms almost 300 acres. He is a very hard working man and is very smart and funny as well. We have been living together since October of 2012. We live on 20 acres, and his parents live on about 100 acres down the road from us.

His mother is the issue why I am in this room. She has been taken care of by men all of her life and has not ever had to fend for herself. She is retired and loves to cook and clean. That is about all she can do, as she does not have any education past the 12th grade, has no sense of direction, and like my boyfriend says "she is ditsy (sp)." I see it as dumb. That is besides the point.

She likes to say things to be to try to get my goat. The other day we were outside looking at the landscaping and she showed me some flower that just went in bloom. I asked her "why do those flowers go into bloom so late in the season." Her her response to me was "Well you were a late bloomer." I was like thinking to myself, what the hell is she talking about. She don't know me. My response back to her was "I started my period when was 12, I have been in bloom for years." It pissed me off so bad, I could not believe it.

I have been on leave from work as I had surgery 4 weeks ago. I am due to go back to work next week. Today, she came over, which she does not do that much, and she woke me up from a nap. All she could say to me when she got in the house was "Oh just waking up, god you are spoiled." I am just thinking, what is wrong with this woman. She does not have a life except for bowing down to her husband all the time, cooking and cleaning oh and gardening are her things that she likes. Good for her, she is a good, she keeps a clean house and she loves to pull weeds. She is good at it.

So why do mother's of boyfriends or husbands say things like to the spouse of their son? I know one thing, she not have much self-esteem. She is so unsure of herself and her lack of street smarts, living life outside of the farm, and not having anymore education than the 12th grade has a lot to do with it.

My boyfriend and I love each other and he has been upset at her a few times with things she has said to me, but I do not want to tell him everything that she says to me as I do not want our relationship to falter because of her.

Any suggestions or any input from anyone on this web site would be appreciated. Thank you.

Becky