I can appreciate that, as a parent, one wants to look out for their children's best interests. Yet, cannot expect that our children will marry men or women who are mirror images.
Not sure, what she meant about late blooming. Are you involved at a later age, than she was? Maybe she has her own sets of dreams or this is her dream? Are you, in her mind, the type of woman, to carry forward, the family legacy?
Her concern about being spoiled may tie into that. Not sure.

That's my perception.