I wonder if relationship addicts are people who cheat constantly, too. Who like to start new romances because it is gone in the older relationships and they don't rekindle it. I wonder it this addiction is conquering new people that may have been hard to get. I once knew someone like that.

I understand being addicted to a person and can't get them out of your mind. You can fantasize about the person so much and it can actually overpower the negative things that person does. You can make believe that somehow that person is going to be with you all the time and change and keep your hopes up. You can even do this for years. Like living in a fairy tale dream. The person can treat you like dirt and you keep thinking only about the good qualities. I bet a good deal of pain is involved in these addictions, too, because there seems to be a lot of obsessing, fantasizing behind them. Reality (the pain in how it really is) tries to break through and then the person starts the cycle of obsessing and fantasizing to feel better. Just like someone picks up a drink to blunt the pain of whatever is happening.

I wonder what percentage of relationships involve these addictions. I bet a good deal of them. Love must be somehow involved, too, though. Then what kind of love it it? There is infatuation, obsessive love among them. True, long-lasting, sustaining love, though, how does that fit in?

More of my random thoughts on the subject.