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Originally Posted by BPHS2010
I know someone who has the tendency to repeat the same conversations over and over again. And a lot of times, they are perverted ones or it is about her being really annoyed at her family and wanting to move back to college. They also tend to turn very one-sided. Not sure how to get her to stop doing that, there is more to live than just talking about moving back to college or having perverted conversations all the time. And at times if I try to change the subject, she will go back to talking about what she was talking about. Anyway to counteract this?
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This is hard. She probably feels little control over her behavior, like a record with a scratch (remember records? oh well)---But, the thing to do is to tell her what she is doing, and to ask if there are ways she can change the subject, or allow you to "cue" her when she reverts back so she has a chance to change course. It will hurt her feelings, but I think she can feel what she is doing, and probably isn't any happier about it than those who listen to her. (I have some experience with getting stuck & repetitious)
Not sure what you mean by perverted, but that, I might just object to in the moment, let her know it is not a topic of interest....
Good Luck.