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I would wait too.
What I’ve realized is that emailing T was counter-intuitive to what I was trying to accomplish by emailing. I was reaching out for a connection, but didn’t see in the moment that T didn’t have time to keep it up with all clients and viewed it as a nuisance. He never articulated it as such, but when T ignores your emails and mentions cutting back in session, it’s obvious. So in that way, emailing put distance between me and T. I know that everyone’s financial situation is different, but with T1, I got into a habit of picking up the phone and calling him if it was that urgent and compensating him for the call. Similarly, I made an extra appointment if I was having a crisis.
If you need to get stuff off your chest, I can say that writing letters to T, journaling or making artwork has been helpful for me. I bring them to session with me, and can talk about it in the moment. The restraint has made me a more patient, independent person. With T2, she’s never mentioned emailing so hasn’t been an issue yet.
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