I do a lot of reframing how I think about things. The title of the thread, "admitting things to t" for example, I would change to think about as "sharing things with T".

I find a lot of disconnect with myself comes from splitting myself in thought in the first place, like my body and my head have two different agendas? Wishing one were connected to one's self. . . almost sounds silly? One is connected to one's self. The realizing thing takes practice I think. It is hard work to look at things honestly instead of trying to do things "quick and dirty" as my stepmother claimed I did things as a teen My signature move, according to her, was that I would eat 2 bananas a day instead of "fix" something for a snack, a banana not taking any work to peel, no dishes to wash :-) The only way to get less "lazy" is to do what is being avoided, whether one likes it or finds it comfortable, easy, etc. or not. And that's hard.