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Old Apr 14, 2007, 01:16 PM
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prettyjolie said:
Juliana, Im glad you could talk to your dad.. but i don't think that I would be able to.He is not very open with feelings, he wasn't brought up to show love, which is really sad.. he isn't like that with me but it took him almost my whole life to finally be able to say "i love you" to me, directly.

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My dad was the same way. He was brought up in an abusive home so he wasn't comfortable expressing emotion. He never hugged us or told us he loved us when we were children. I knew he loved us, though, by the things he did. I could always tell that he DID care. It was very, very hard for me to get up the nerve to talk to him about how I was feeling and what was going on with mum. He responded very well, though, and afterwards I was relieved and I felt somewhat unburdened.

So, even though your dad may not express his emotions well, I'm sure he cares deeply about you and loves you with all his heart. It might be hard for you to have a conversation with him about how you feel, but his response might surprise you. You might find that it brings you even closer.

By the way, my dad is much more open now. He hugs me every time he sees me and tells me he loves me every time we talk on the phone. I owe it all to Oprah. LOL. Seriously. My dad started watching Oprah years ago and he learned to be more affectionate and to express his feelings to the people he loves.

I'm glad you're going to start therapy. You need to talk to someone about everything you're going through. You're in a tough place. ((((prettyjolie))))
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