Becca, I don't really get angry either. Probably due to family interactions growing up, not being allowed to express anger, being beaten or punished if I did, etc. I can feel hurt and pain, though. My T tells me that many people then take their hurt and get angry, but I don't seem to do that. I just get hurt and stuff it all inside. And I get depressed. People who get angry scare me and embarrass me too. When someone is angry and slams the door or something, I am soooo embarrassed for them. It just seems stupid. I cannot imagine ever having a little temper tantrum like that and slamming a door. It seems like something a 2 year old would do. I need some good models of how to be angry, so that if I could allow myself to feel anger, I would know how to express it in a healthy, adult way (is there such a thing?) rather than a temper tantrum 2 year old way. I really have no idea how to do this. I have so many problems to work on in therapy, this is not at the top of this list. And they wonder why therapy can drag on for years....