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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
Maybe she is trying to get you to separate too much too soon?
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I don't think so. She's doing SE with me and holding my hand as a way to be able to hold onto her
She doesn't think emailing her is helping me do that. She thinks journaling is better for me.
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Originally Posted by Mastodon
I don't have any good advice, rainbow, but I wanted to say that I'm sorry it's so hard for you right now.  |
Thank you.
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Originally Posted by Leah123
Do you have anyone in real life to talk to about therapy? I've experienced some of the most growth from taking the pressure of difficult sessions and sharing it with my husband, taking what I thought was too personal, too upsetting, too 'crazy' and sharing it made it all so much easier to bear and more normal-feeling.
Being more vulnerable and authentic, not just in the one hour of therapy, but in the rest of my life, is really powerful and healing.
I have even looked for new friends who can relate to therapy and connecting with new people who it's so easy to be authentic with has also been great, maybe worth a try?
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Thanks. Yes, I have at least 2 friends I can discuss therapy with. Not my H, though. I actually confided in someone last night about wanting to be more connected with her. We had shared an emotional experience a while ago, and I wanted to do it again. It was a good conversation.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
I would try to wait or write it down and possibly mail it through the post office rather than email. I think it being hard may, unfortunately, be a part of getting past the longing. Certainly I am not saying fun or easy.
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I forgot to say that so far I'm okay. I'm not going to email!
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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
I would suggest that you wait. I think stopdog is right about this being a way to get past that longing. If you indulge your desire for constant contact with T you won't have the opportunity to grow independently. Focus on your RL and try to find other ways to soothe yourself or have meaningful experiences.
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That's what I'm trying to do--get past the longing. It's hard!