for the most part i tend to just take what people say at face value when i trust them. your T, while not perfect, has shown herself to be quite trustworthy from everything you've said about her. i really think her motives are good. that doesn't mean she won't inadvertently make mistakes now and then, but i would just take it that she means what she is saying to you. it is hard to trust but what is the other option, really? i don't know, that is how i tend to view things and it's always worked well for me once i trust someone. i do think when people start mindreading it is pretty much always to their detriment and is about them and not the other person.