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Any memorable questions and answers from your sessions?

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WinterRose, that's an interesting question.

I'll give two questions, but they aren't from the beginning of my therapy. But they are memorable to me.

The first is when my T asks me "Why are you still in this marriage?" He has asked it more than once, and it is always to the point and very thought provoking. I ask it to myself sometimes and it helps me focus.

The second was one time just after I had told T I was feeling very self indulgent for going to therapy and what we were doing there. And he said "Do you want me to respond?" That question sticks in my mind. I answered something like "You can respond if you want, if you have something to say. It’s up to you." Toward the end of that session, he would say how significant my statement was to him. He called it “a differentiated moment” in which I gave him and me each space to exist there in the room, there in therapy. It was his choice whether to respond--I gave that to him. I always liked that question and response. He made me feel like I was contributing a lot to our therapy and alliance by giving us each space and choices. It made me feel like not so much a receiver of therapy but a partner in my therapy.